As I hear and see so many struggling with singleness, not to mention the ones who suffer in silence. I can't help but wonder are we doing our part to become whole to attract the right mate God has for us. We must be honest as we look inside ourselves and face boldy our own hurts. To learn from them, forgive and heal 1st. In this season of singleness work on becoming all that God has created you to be. Fine tune your character, manners and attitude. Ladies, a mans #1 desire/need is respect. Recognize we are different and have different needs and embrace it. God designed us women to love--So love, of course guard you heart, BUT open your heart, be soft in your words and attitude. Men do not like loud controlling women. Watch your body lanuage...men are visual, and it could really mean the difference of if he see's you as approachable or disrespectful. Such as, eye rolling, arms crossed and finger pointing, just to name a few. Here is a BIGGIE....men tell me this ALL the time. They love my smile!! Ladies, you are not smiling enough. So many men say women do not smile. And they love a woman who smiles, it shows she is happy. So now you know a lil something you all can change right now =) smile!! If you like a man and hes talking to you, smile, relax you arms and body language and it will make him feel at ease.
OK, on to the tougher subject...lol!! And before I go further, I apprecaite great men and I do not bash men, I am hear to bring you information for your growth in your own self-worth ladies.
Ladies, You must get this please!! Go by a mans ACTIONS not his words. Many men know and use this to their advantage to fill women with the words they long to hear and some even go as far as becoming Emotional Rapist. Yes words are very important, but if he is not backing them up with the right action...he is after one thing! We all have desires to be held, kissed and touched and long for that amazing sexual encounter with our future husband or wife. (I know some of my brothers read my blogs too, much love to you great men!) But ladies we can not compromise and have sex outside of marriage. It is a covenant with God, and when done it is a sin against our own bodies. It opens the door to soulties which leads to many toxic relationships that are not built on the foundation of Christ but on lust.
Contrary to popular belief ladies, after a man has sleeps with you, you value goes DOWN! Yes, he will try, and keep trying, it is up to you to know your worth be virtuous and continue living your beautiful life and if he is not willing to wait be gracious and move on. Do not compromise or settle out of aloneness, frustration or age. Keep this in mind............Lust is SELFISH...wanting it now! Love is SELFLESS...it is patient it waits! Lust is seen as a mans struggle and I do believe it is a big one due to they are very visual creatures! The internet, t.v., porn, billboards, videos, and us......they are flooded daily! Women do struggle with it as well, but it is not talked about as much. But it is evident hence the amount of sexual relationships going on. We must get lust under control as a single person if not it will rear it's ugly head again in marriage (selfish desires not being met). As we must renew our minds daily with the Word of God in other areas we must renew this part as well! What we bring out of the dark into light has no more power over us anymore! I would like to add this-- YOU are not disgusting or filthy! YOU are a BEAUTIFUL creation, God's Masterpieces! You must not see yourselves in a shameful way. You are working on this area, and it takes time.
God created Eve for Adam so we are meant to be attracted to one another and be that helpmate for the right person. It is up to us to keep ourselves in check until that mate comes along. So continue living a joyful, harmonious life loving yourself and others. Becoming that wonderful mate in all areas of your life.
Be encouraged, know you are a keeper!
This is a season......not a LIFE sentence! =) Below are some scriptures to encourage you and keep you on the right track.
Love and Blessings, Trish.............W.O.W.
SCRIPTURES~
Throw off your old sinful nature and former wayof life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. (Ephesians 4:22)
The end of a thing is better than it's beginning, and the patient in spirit is better than proud in spirit. I do not hasten in my spirit to be angry, for anger rests in the bosom of fools.
(Ecclesiates 7:8-9)
Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. (1 Corinthians 6:18)
I wait and hope for and expect the Lord; I am brave and of good courage and my heart be stout and enduring. Yes, I wait for and hope for and nexpect in the Lord. (Psalm 27:14)
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